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Anonymous asked: I fell in love with my best friend about a year ago, and we had been together ever since the beginning of this month when she broke it off with me. She's over in another country for 7 months and said what she needed was a best friend. Not a boy friend anymore. Before she left she told me not to give up on us and she promised she wouldn't.But now she's just let go of us. She's found someone else to, So quickly, like we didn't even mean anything in the first place. What do I do? :( I'm so hurt.

mostlyfiction:

You move on. This woman that you are involved with, or were involved is obviously overly selfish. She doesn’t actually care about your relationship, maybe your friendship, but not the romantic side of what you had. I mean, she went to another country and told you she just wanted to remain friends and then goes and gets a boyfriend? She seems to not want to be lonely. She’s most likely expecting you to be waiting for her when she comes back. Don’t wait. You are just going to give her what she wants when really you need to focus on what you want. And do you want someone who wants you when it’s convenient for them? Or do you want someone who want you always, no matter where they go or what they do? That’s love right there. Love is not about going away for months and leaving someone behind who you once were with, just because you won’t be able to see them for 7 months. And honestly, 7 months is not a long time to wait. It’s actually incredibly short compared to the amount of time that people wait for their significant others to return home from wherever they are. So basically, you can do one of two things. You can remain in the mindset you are in now, and wait for her until she returns because I can assure you she will want you back when she comes back and will do to this new man what she did to you. Or you can move on, make yourself happy, and create new relationships that may lead to something serious. You can either keep breaking your own heart by letting her break it for you, or you can find ways of forgetting, letting go, and just moving on. Really, it’s all up to you. I’ve been, and I think a lot of people reading this have been in this situation before and they can support my overall point. I hope you do what is right for you, love. Just remember, you’re better than all of this.

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Sometimes we just have to cut off the dead branches in our life. Sometimes that’s the only way we can keep the tree alive. It’s hard and it hurts, but it’s what’s best.

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  1. push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.

    2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.

    3. erase processed food from your diet. start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it.

    4. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.

    5. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.

    6. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.

    7. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.

    8. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.

    9. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.

    10. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.

    11. push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.

    12. message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.

    14. think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.

    15. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.

    16. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.